So me [20F] and my boyfriend [20M] have been together for about a month. He’s in the military a state away so we don’t get to see each other that often. We are having a small dispute over something that doesn’t really matter and I believe that he’s overreacting to the whole thing.
Last weekend on Saturday we were talking on the phone until he told me that he had to go. Right after we hung up I asked him “do you want to continue our conversation through text or should I call you later” he said later and that he was sorry. It registered in my head that he was busy so I told him to text me when he was done. Later that evening I accidentally sent him a text that I was supposed to send my friend, I asked if the person would like to come to the lake with my family. After getting back from the lake, I still didn't receive anything which was no biggie so I thought maybe he was on base so I went to check his location, turns out he went to the outskirts of LA. Personally it none of my business was he does, but all he had to tell me was that he would be hanging with friends and that he'll text me Sunday. It oddly made me a little upset, so I didn't text him Sunday plus I was busy with other personal things. Later Sunday night I went to my friend's house and ended up staying the night, my friend is gay, and I've mentioned it to my boyfriend before. So with that in mind, I had my GAY friend on my snap story. The next morning I woke up to a text from my boyfriend saying goodbye and that he wishes he knew why I left [the relationship]. That's when things went downhill. He said that I ignored him for 2 whole days and accused me of cheating on him with the guy on my snap story (which I can understand looks bad). I tried calling him later that evening and he said that he was still pissed and didn't want to talk, but I wanted to sort things out. I told him that he's handling the whole situation like a child which apparently mad him even more mad. We never got anywhere that day. Tuesday comes around so I planned to handle this like the adults that we are. I try to text him and get my side sorted out also admit my wrongs. But he wants to send short replies like it doesn't matter until I ”say” something wrong. Also trying to play the victim, he uses excuses about things is ex did in their past relationship. I kept telling him that this argument is blown way out of proportion and isn't that big of a deal. I also mentioned that this fight won't affect our relationship in anyway in the future.
I don't understand why he's so mad. He won't admit that he has handled this conflict poorly and won't apologize for it. It makes me second guess our relationship because if he's dealt with the situation like this, I can't imagine how he'll handle even more severe cases. It makes it even harder because we can't situate this in person. And ill also admit that I've had periods in the argument where I got heated and sent multiple texts trying to get his attention to talk.
How do I talk to him and take care of this whole deal? If I could get a man point of view that'd be great!
[link] [comments]
from Dating Advice https://ift.tt/2LJsECA
via IFTTT
No comments:
Post a Comment