Using a throwaway here because there's some personal info involved.
I'm a 24 year old guy living in a small-ish midwestern college town (about 60,000 people). Due to un-correctable vision impairment I can't get a driver's license, even with restrictions (glasses/contacts/lasik don't help). Aside from not driving I can do about 99% of what any normal person can. I've got a decent full-time job, I can get around via uber/bus/bike/walking, etc. I try to stay in good health and I'd like to think I'm not offensively ugly.
But it's been a serious impediment when it comes to dating. For instance, the last few girls I matched with on tinder ghosted me pretty much immediately once I told them about my situation. The same thing happened when meeting people face to face. Example; my coworker introduced me to one of her recently single friends. We went out to get coffee, talked for a few hours, and overall had a great time. Towards the end I made a joking comment about how the DOT doesn't like to let mostly blind people like me drive. Almost immediately she became noticeably more distant. Never heard from her again afterwards. I talked with my coworker and she admitted that her friend stated she wasn't comfortable dating someone who couldn't drive and "wasn't independent" (her words).
Is there anyone in a similar situation who could offer some advice? I'm worried that my disability will just make me a burden to any potential partners- and honestly, I can see why they think that way. Yeah I can get around on my own just fine, but things get tricky when a second person is thrown into the mix.
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