It seems so clear now that I realize it; but I never thought this way before. I always had my subconscious turning down opportunities if I didn’t think the girls’ appearances would WOW the vast majority of others.
Why the hell does any of that matter? I mean, yes, I want my friends and family to be fond of any partner I have. But I’ve been so shallow. I’ve always thought about what I look like to others with whatever girl I’m talking to.
While lying with this wonderful new woman I’ve been talking to, I realized part of what true relationships built on love are about. All those moments when it’s just you two and no one else is watching. What happens in those moments is so special. If they don’t truly mean anything to you — does anything else matter?
Basically, this girl is one I would have seen maybe a few months and thought she was cute but wouldn’t date her. I had certain expectations with looks and petty little things. This woman has completely opened my eyes.
I’m starting to get it now and I feel so silly for being so overly concerned with what others will think of me and a partner.
This woman makes me feel at home and I’ve been able to vent some really difficult struggles in my life early on in the relationship. As she has...
In fact... everything I thought about how a successful relationship for me would be has turned out to be wrong.
One of the first times I’ve taken things naturally and not forced anything. And something beautiful is blossoming. Even if she isn’t “the one” — I’ll remember her for directly and indirectly teaching me a lot about what a relationship really should be.
It’s also crazy how others’ external appearances will change drastically when you get to know who they really are. This woman’s beauty externally is perceived a lot deeper by me now than some random “10” I can randomly see and lust for.
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