So I’ve been on two dates with this woman so far. She seems wonderful and I think we’re seeing each other again at the weekend. She’s funny, shares a lot of interests (and differences) with me, has a similar working background to me, takes a genuine interest in me and I guess to round it off, she’s beautiful. I’m currently working hard to keep my head cool on this, not put her on a pedestal or anything like that. This is the first time in years I can recall actually having this much of a healthy mindset towards dating someone. For the most part, I’ve not been “anxiously” waiting on replies to messages (although I guess today I’ve had a few thoughts like that), I’ve been really relaxed about the whole thing and I’ve just been enjoying it for what it is so far. She’s the first person in the last year of dating I’ve even wanted to go on a second date, let alone a third. I’m not going as far as to start thinking about a future with her, but she is someone I want to keep dating and see if this goes anywhere. I guess the things I need advice on can be split into a few different parts:
1) So I think we both know we’re pretty poor texters at this stage. Honestly I’m surprised it’s gone this far just on how bad I am at it alone. In between dates, how much do people talk really? We talk a little bit every day just, which I’m happy enough with, but I don’t want her to maybe lose interest because of this.
2) I’ve organised the first 2 dates so far. I don’t really mind the whole “chasing” thing and like suggesting things to do/places to go. But I also dunno if I should bring up the 3rd date or just leave that up to her. Would I be better off bringing up the first date, asking about her favourite places in town to go, and suggest one of those? By the end of our last date, we were both pretty drunk and she’d make joking remarks about me being her boyfriend when she introduced me to some family, I vaguely recall us talking about seeing each other again this weekend and after she got home she texted me to tell me what a good night she’d had and the next date was on her. We’ve been texting in our kind of usual manner since then just!
3) I guess this leads me into my last thing. Maybe the 3rd date is too soon for this, or maybe I’ve left it this too late, but it’s been so long since I’ve done it. I’m not sure how you broach the topic of what someone is looking for. I know what it is I’m looking for, but how do you go about finding out what it is they’re looking for? For a bit of extra context, I know she’s going to be away for work for roughly a month and a half. So on that alone really, I’m not sure if she’s looking for something more than just going out on dates with someone. On our first date we talked for about 7 hours, with the only breaks being to go to the bathroom or to make-out. Same with our second date, plenty of talking and kissing, except it was a lot more intimate feeling and she was a lot more “coupley” with me.
I think really I’m just starting to get a little bit nervous about the whole thing because it’s a very long time since I’ve met someone I like this much and seem to click so well with. I found it much easier to be relaxed about going on the first date because I guess I had “no hopes/expectations” for it to go anywhere just because I’d not met anyone I was really interested in uo until now.
I’m not throwing my entire love life into this one basket as if it’s the be-all, end-all. However, she is someone I really like and would like to keep seeing. I’m just not sure how to navigate this whole dating business anymore so any advice would be appreciated. Thanks for reading!
[link] [comments]
from Dating Advice https://ift.tt/2OwjHyw
via IFTTT
No comments:
Post a Comment