First of all, shes a farmer (23/F) and I'm a full remote engineer (30/M). I need to preface this because she is very busy and a laundry list of responsibilities. Shes pretty upfront about this so I'm somewhat knew what I was getting into. We live about 30 miles away from each other, me in the city and her in a rural part near by.
So we really hit it off on bumble because we have a lot of shared interested and we schedule a date on that saturday. She ends up emailing me that saturday and says she has to push back to sunday. We met up that sunday in a tiny town half way and the date went decently. We schedule another date for the next weekend, since shes busy on weekdays, but she ends up becoming busy on both days on the weekend and pushes to next weekend. She said she feels guilty of always having to push back but I tell her I understand that she has a lot going on. The small talk over text is generally waning at this point because its hard to catch her at a time when shes not busy so its hard to have a good conversation. I ask if she wants to facetime but she says that sounds really stressful and says she doesn't want to. I start to engage her more over snapchat since thats a bit more casual and low effort.
We catch a second date and things go well but she can't stay for long since she has other farm obligations that she forgot about. We have a good time and she texts me later that day wanting to have a third date. She gave me some ideas of what she wanted to do and we planned something for next weekend. She seemed really excited to want to get to know me more over. When the weekend rolls around, she ends up bailing on the date because she had to respond to a friend emergency, which is valid. She sort of drifts off the next few days so I ask if she wants to reschedule the date. She says that shes been super overwhelmed the past few days and she doesn't think shes in a place to pursue any kind of relationship. I take her for being honest and then haven't said anything since.
Should I just move on?
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