Recently, within the last week, my girlfriend and I broke up. We were going strong, it was summertime and we just had graduated from High School and were heading into the summer with both of us having jobs. She randomly came to me and said that we kind of been fight a lot recently. I noticed this also, but it was extremely fixable. The reasons why we had been fighting is because we had both been busy with jobs and were trying to find time to be with each other but whenever we tried to make plans, one of us was busy with things to do and it kind of got annoying. But I approached her asking to fix this and she didn't want to because she was going off to college. 3 days after we broke up, she went and kissed a dude at a concert, one that is going to the college she is going to. I feel lost, how can my love for her be so disposable and how can she move on like that. She randomly just wanted to break up, her family didn't even have a clue on what was going on and it caught them by surprise that she would up and leave me. I try to get answers but I get told that I am being annoyed and that she needs space. I feel so sad because when I went to her grad party, her family was crying when I hugged them because they just lost someone who had become a part of them.
I get advice to just let her be and have space and maybe she will come back and talk to me and realize that she won't find someone who is willing to invest as much love in her as I was. I really was just there for her, I got her through her sad times of depression, her parenting problems because of her parents getting divorced, her bad outbursts and eating problems. Everything... I poured my heart out to her, she never felt alone but then she goes and throws me under the bus and doesn't even want to give me answers.
Also, she told me that with college coming up, that it would be hard and that she wants to grow into her own person. I told her that she and I have been in a relationship for a year and 7 months, we can get through this, her college was only 2 hours away from me because I'm staying local and commuting to college. I was willing to do anything to make it work and she didn't want to try anything.
I'm so sad right now and I don't know how to act. I really want to wait for her, I feel like she will smarten up and come crawling back to me.
Should I wait for her and give her space?
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