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Girlfriend dumped me when life got busy. We had a healthy, happy relationship up until the events below. We kept in contact throughout, but we did not spend as much time with each other as normal. She did not communicate any needs and instead walked away.
All events happened between April 1-May 5, 2019. People in my family were surprised I made it through everything in one piece. To me it was just about getting things done to come out strong for everyone.
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Year end at work. Many late, overtime hours worked to close the books for the year. March 31 year end. Everything wrapped up around April 20th.
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Got promoted as year end began. Double the work to learn new role and close the books. Pressure to perform while on probation in new role.
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Major family trauma in early April. Someone in my family was in the hospital for severe trauma. If I wasn't at work, I was at the hospital with my family members for the recovery.
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Family visit from overseas. Additional members of my family came over from overseas to assist with the hospital trauma. We spent a lot of time together at the hospital for the recovery process.
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Termination of lease in April. My landlord ended the lease for the apartment space I was in. I had to be out by May 30th. A lot of pressure to find a place to live.
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Bought a home. I ended up putting an offer on a place in April and it was accepted. Lots of number crunching and several visits to the bank to obtain financing. Visits with agents and lawyers for documents regarding the purchase. This was finalized by the end of April. My agent said it was one of the quickest sales she'd ever done. My girlfriend came with me to view properties I put offers in on.
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Lastly, my girlfriend said she felt like she was on the back burner. That she was not apart of my life. She said she wasn't happy and walked away dumping me over text message May 5. We were together 8 months. What a slap in the face on top of being dumped. I did not understand how she felt like this, my life was chaotic and it was only temporary my life would be so busy. I was devastated but did not process the relationship being over. I was still at the hospital assisting with recovery and doing the home purchase details. She is a medical professional and I thought she would understand the time spent with family.
Hospital visits and trauma recovery finished August 1st. I didn't process the break up completely until August 2-3-4 when I got back to a normal life. I completely fell apart. I was a mess. A lot of pain. Is there anything I was missing to be a good partner through this time? It was difficult to process all events in a short period of time.
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