Let me preface this with yes, I am a virgin and never had a girlfriend, or more then 3 dates with a girl. I'm super nervous about women and fall for them VERY fast. After a particularly bad fall a few years ago (Like, the kind that literally changes you as a person) I swore that i would NEVER develop romantic feelings for a woman again unless she slept with me first. And since then I've had a few dates that were disastrous with women who were really...unique... I didn't have any feelings for them, just trying to get laid but nothing materialized.
I have recently been working on myself, gym, saving money, looking for my own place (yes I live at home, i had a rough couple of years after college..am seeing a doctor) really trying to perform in my new job, a long term career that's actually a very good job with a large company with lots of room to grow. And more importantly being more social, my F Friend is helping me get out more which is how I was able to meet *Her*
So a few months ago I met, *Her* She's a cousin of a friend's (f) fiancee. Met her in person a few times, seems cool. I was interested immediately but I didn't try anything because you know...friend's cousin...but she is cute and single and that pretty much ticks all my boxes. She lives two towns over (about 90 min drive) so we don't have the opportunity to all hang out together
I didn't say anything about her to my F friend but one after hanging out with her (I wasn't there) night my friend called me up and asked "What do you think of *Her*, " And i confessed that yes I was interested, but a little cautious because of her cousin...and all my hang ups about liking women (I was just recently shot down by another friend of hers and i take that shit hard, like I fucking hate myself so much and feel reminded that I'm not good enough for a woman when it happens) F friend was a little drunk and told me "You should totally try to date her, she's soooo introverted like you, " then she dropped the bomb "I don't think she's ever had a boyfriend!"
So now I'm like, holy shit...
We've been, as a group, playing a co op video game and chatting, as a group, while we play. She seems really cool, and i'm starting to get afraid because I'm developing feelings and I HATE that I have feelings now, because the record shows this means I'm about to get hurt again.
But I'm trying, so I tried to find her on facebook, doesn't have it, I downloaded snap chat and casually said in the group chat "Hey guys I got snapchat let me add you all" she doesn't have it, I'm trying to find a way to establish a direct line of communication with her so i can talk to her one v one and my friend says "Yeah shes not social at all, does that sound like someone we know??"
I found a way to directly talk with socially very shy girl one v one. IDK What to start saying though, like It needs to be a topic that wouldn't look weird not saying in group chat. She's really into this one Anime and I've been watching that to talk to her about it, but I need something else to talk about that can really make me look good and get her interested, she seems to like my company, F friend has mentioned that when I can't make game night she sounds disappointed.
Sorry for long post...I over analyze social situations to an EXTREME extent.
TLDR: Very shy introverted guy trying to start a conversation with very shy introverted girl, how do I start the convo? I don't want to make it obvious I'm interested in more right away, want to be her friend first
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