So this happened a while back and I'm dating a new girl now who I like a lot more all around but this keeps nagging at me in the back of my mind and I want to figure it out for knowledge and growths sake.
I first met this girl at a bar and we went back with each other several nights in a row and hooked up. It was very casual but then a couple weeks later I asked her on an actual date, which she was excited about it. After I asked her on the date we started snapchatting and texting a lot. I normally don't really use snapchat much with girls i'm interested in but this time I went with it because she seemed to like it and it was kind of fun. The date went really well and we ended up hooking up afterwards.
After the first date we started snapchatting constantly. I usually keep some distance and and try to limit that sort of thing but we were getting along great and if she wanted to be in constant contact, I decided I wasn't going to play games and ignore her messages purposefully. We set up another date about a week and a half later which went really well again (at least in my mind?) and ended up hooking up afterwards again. After this I was really digging this girl and thinking that maybe this could actually go somewhere.
We kept talking on snapchat all the time and I saw her again a couple weeks later when we met at a bar together. Now this is when my first red flag went up. We were both pretty drunk but at one point she started flirting with this other guy in plain view of me while I was talking to some friends. Didn't really know what to think of it but after a while I went and got her back and she just laughed and joked about how he tried to kiss her. We ended up going back together, hooked up, and layed in bed talking and making out until almost 3:00pm the next day. Really thought everything was amazing at this point and chalked up the night before to her trying to make me jealous or something. I've never experienced a better kisser than her and was completely hooked. I really thought we might have something great after this.
Well, after this we were both busy for a couple weeks and couldn't meet up again but we continued messaging each other consistently throughout the day everyday. Several more weeks went by though and I kept asking her if she wanted to hang out again but she was always busy. Her excuses seemed fairly legit most of the time and she always said she definitely wanted to do something a different time but never offered a specific date to reschedule which was a red flag. Eventually about a month and a half went by during which time she always had an excuse why she couldn't do something yet she continued to snapchat me constantly and act interested in going on another date in the future. At this point I feel like logic says she's stringing me along but I was just so confused why she'd put so much effort into constantly keep in contact with me if she wasn't interested anymore. We ended up going to the same event with our friends and I ran into her. We talked for about two minutes before someone she knew walked by and started talking to her and she pretty much just blew me off. After this I decided it was wasted effort and stopped communicating with her.
Sorry that was really long, I'm not great at being concise. I suppose i'm just confused as to why after what seemed like multiple good dates she would keep talking to me constantly as if everything was great when in reality she had (apparently?) lost interest. It seems like so much effort for no reason. Did she simply enjoy the free attention? Should I have just backed off a little instead of cutting off contact completely?
TLDR; Went on multiple dates with girl, everything seemed great, confused why she would keep constantly talking to me even after she evidently lost interest in actually going out with me.
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