I'm having a hard time (been describing it as "emotional distress") over a girl (girl A) who is giving me mixed signals. For example, on Monday (3rd date) we were cuddling, holding hands, fondling, sleeping next to each other overnight (she also bought me dinner and breakfast, which I fully intend to reciprocate next time, as my male ego is on the line).
On Monday, we mentioned in passing that Thursday (today) maybe we could meet up. But now she isn't really talking to me, and dodged my attempt to set a date. I am not sure what's going on, so I'm doing my best to be patient and not blow up her messages. I'm optimistic that she'll say something to me at some point as she doesn't seem to be a ghosting type. She's had these one/two-day silences before, only to come back to talk to me again, although it's never been back to the same level of flirty as our 2nd date.
The problem is that all this is giving me a LOT of anxiety. If it were clearer that it was over, then I'd have an easier time accepting it and moving on. I do have another date lined up with a new girl Saturday night, but all I really want is to spend time with girl A. I know where to take girl A and what to talk about and what to do after...if only she'd say yes.
I'm doing my best to understand her situation as she might be busy or not feel like socializing, giving her space and time. The rule I've set for myself is not to say anything to her until she does, at which point I'll stay lighthearted as always and not be butthurt.
How would you deal with this anxiety? Thanks!
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