This isn't a new revelation but in the year 2020 I (23f) want to open myself up more to love and relationships etc. I'm super closed off in that field I have trouble expressing interest in men. If I have a crush, I just let it manifest in my head until I get over it and then if there's a guy that shows interest in me I just shut down.
I wouldnt completely say I was insecure, I am confident in my looks and I'm great at making friends, but any romantic interactions? It's an immediate shut off. Last time I had a thing with a man was last year very briefly and then I cut him off since I became disinterested. Any other guy, I just was not interested in anything more than friendship. I just had brief crushes here and there since which I wouldn't go for because of age difference, we worked together etc.
A guy slid into my dms recently and although I wasn't raving about him, he seemed nice and I was happy to keep talking to him.. until he mentioned meeting up to which I left a very general response of 'yeah if I'm in the area'. I'm sure he feigned that as more of a no than yes. I don't even know myself if I would want to or if I'm just shutting myself off and not even giving this a chance? Or if I'm just genuinely not interested that much. It seems I'm better off making up scenarios in my head than actually playing them out irl.
Do you have any tips on how to curb this, how I can open myself up more or make more of an effort within the dating field? Should I make an effort with this guy..?
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