I live in Europe where English is foreign language. So, I've recently been told by my tandem partner that she chose to be my language partner out of many other people because she found me very pleasant. We now meet ever weekend and generally have fun time. But I'm absolutely sure that she's not interested in me romantically at all, this is us just being friends.
I also have another lady tandem partner. It seems women don't mind being my tandem partners as every time I asked any lady to practice language exchange, they said yes. Apparently women don't hate me, because I actually do have many female friends, I think more than male ones. I have also been told I'm charming, by people of many different types.
All these opinions I acquired, not because I asked them their opinion about me, but because I do travel a lot and I meet loads of strangers and I love chatting to people, hearing their stories and experiences and we laugh and sometimes I end up hearing these comments.
But after all these interactions, I never found love in my 32 years of life. I have never had a nice woman respond to my advances positively, let alone approach me. Now, I'm a bit confused. I'm not a shy man. I don't think I'm boring either, as apart from traveling I do have many other hobbies like singing, cooking, reading, learning languages, history etc. I have a decent job in one of the largest companies in the world, so I guess I'm not stupid.
I'm not fat. I try to work out several days per week. I'm definitely short, 160cm (5'3"). Okay, I don't have a lot of muscle showing up because I love eating, so my diet isn't perfect, but I only weigh 60-61 Kg.
So, if women find me pleasant, what could be the turn off? Is it my lack of height? Or is it because I kinda look brown and young, South Asian or Latin (many strangers thought I'm Mexican) and not really mature, hot, manly looking man, like many Arab, Black and white guys look?
I'm asking this question because sometimes I get really lonely and wonder what's wrong with me. Does my asking this question make me entitled?
Edited because I need to clarify:
I don't try to be nice. I'm just me. In fact, in last 1 month I ended up coming across offending two older women because I was just being me. I stand on my own, I love being independent and I have no problem expressing my honest opinion. In fact, I lost few friends because I absolutely hammered their favourite their city as I was leaving it after living for their for 5 years.
But she commented me that I'm pleasant, I didn't associate it with being nice. No, I don't expect anyone to fall in love with me, but I do wonder why no woman ever finds me attractive because I have seen men who are far less interesting, far less traveled, far less accomplished find women easily.
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