So I am [22M] turning 23 by the end of the year, and I'm starting to think I should probably get into dating now so I'm not a complete inexperienced wreck when I'm older. The problem is there are a few barriers I think I'd need to overcome first.
For some context, I am kind of an extreme homebody. I don't really have any hobbies of any sort other than the usual watching movies and web-surfing, I don't usually go out, I usually prefer to spend my time either by myself or with one or two other very close friends (not groups), I have no experience with or interest in clubbing/drinking/sports/usual ways of meeting people, and I can be incredibly awkward and nervous around new people, sometimes, but not always.
To be perfectly honest, I think I just don't like being uncomfortable and meeting new people or being in places where I'm expected to interact with lots of different people always makes me uncomfortable - which is why I've never actually tried to get into dating. I genuinely have no clue what that kind of thing entails, what "signs," if any, I need to look out for, how to be appealing to others, or any of that. The biggest barrier though, is that sometimes when I get the sense that someone is "better" than me, or in a position superior to my own, I get incredibly nervous and when that happens I blank out and can't talk (like, at all. I end up genuinely having nothing on my mind, and can only respond with nervous chuckles or "yeah" and that kind of thing. It's happened more times than I'd like to admit at work).
Any advice about getting around that, or any tips in general about where/how to meet people, start conversations, make connections and go about this kind of thing is welcome.
Thanks in advance.
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