Since there’s only a few posts out there about red flags and spotting them, I thought I’d share a personal experience I had. I started using Hinge during quarantine and matched with this guy who left a comment in the beginning of April. We talked til the beginning of May and although he was nice and we had some things in common, he seemed to change over time and I’m not sure how to describe it since English was my 3rd & last language. He goes to a different college and isn’t too far from me, and I found out from some friends that they have him on social media.
They also let me know more about him than he seemed, he was a sweet and kind person to me over text but on social media was completely different. They showed me posts of his Instagram and Snapchat stories, where in one he posted on his story of an argument on an Instagram post where he fat shamed someone, and his Snapchat story where he called girls in a plain black snap with text attention seeking followed by the b word.
It was so shocking and I was upset that he could do and say those awful things on his stories, but act so nice in text. I stopped talking with him now and although I’m upset because I liked talking with him before I found out this information, I’m also relieved because I couldn’t see myself being with someone who spoke about and treated people so badly. I wouldn’t have ever imagined him doing something like this, and luckily managed to avoid anything bad happening to me since we never got that far. I just wanted to share this personal experience with others because people over text of course are probably not going to be the same person on social media or irl. Just some words to be careful with who you’re talking with and meeting out there.
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