GF doesn’t like when I help her, she likes to help herself. Will she always be like this or can I change her?

I always try to be supportive with my GF who I’ve been with for over a year. She’s a independent girl who likes to do a lot of things in life by herself. Something special brought us together and at the time, she wasn’t really looking for a relationship, she wanted to focus on her life and herself. Eventually she knew later on in life, she’d want a relationship, but because of the special way we met, she really didn’t want to let this go so she accepted it and we became an official couple.

Before we met, she’s just always been independent and likes to do things herself.

Example 1 - during lockdown, she didn’t really go grocery shopping often, so when she ran out of stuff, I offered to go buy her groceries and come drop it at her house. She kept saying no it’s okay, and said she doesn’t need anything right now. Then the next morning, I see her walking to the supermarket to do a big shop.

Example 2 - she’s thinking of buying and selling things to make a profit. She didn’t know what product to choose, so I offered to help her compare and decide which product would be good for her. I said we’ll do it tomorrow, she agrees and says yeah that sounds like a good idea. Then next day she’s already chosen her products without even asking me or telling me, I found out myself when I went on her page.

Example 3 - I offered to pick her up as she was carrying a lot of stuff. She said no that’s rude if she just called me to ask me to pick her up. I said no it’s fine your my partner. Then she just got public transport / cab back herself.

It’s not really a big problem, but as we are in a relationship, I’d like to be able to help her as much as I can or when I can. She usually says it’s okay, sometimes she accept my help but do it herself before it’s time for me to help, so she doesn’t have to use me.

We’ve been together 1.5 years and are in our mid 20s.

Is there a way to change her to let me be more supportive towards her? Or is this just how she’ll always be?

submitted by /u/UncutCoconut
[link] [comments]

from Dating Advice https://ift.tt/3cF8Psp
via IFTTT