I (20F) am super new to this whole dating thing. Was super studious in high school and didn't care much about "relationships" then, but now that I'm in college, I'm more open.
I went to a very nerdy high school and now college, so a lot of the guys I hang out with are not the hook-up or blatantly flirty type. I just have this issue where I can't tell when a guy is flirting with me or not. Even if I have a slight hunch, I automatically assume that everyone is just being friendly. If I'm interested in someone and I feel like there's a chance of it being mutual, I play it safe and assume friendliness. This leads to me overanalyzing texts or interactions, but I can honestly see every single case going either way: platonic or friendly.
Which makes me EXCEPTIONALLY confused, since I've been crushing on a very close guy friend [20M] from college since last December. He just got out of a relationship when we first met, so I didn't have any feelings for him until a couple of months in. We were extremely close on campus before COVID and he would constantly hit me up to ask me where I was so we could hangout/study/get meals. Honestly felt pretty platonic then, I remember being upset about unrequited feelings!!
During quarantine (after April) is when I felt like there was a chance. We share everything with each other and can even message for hours about boring daily things like sleep schedule and what we're eating today for lunch. Lately, it's kinda gotten to the point where he's been using emojis like this: 🥰 when being sweet and also when texting me goodnight, uses a red heart. Normally I'd be like "eyyy" but I know that during quarantine, he started talking again to his ex. I don't believe it's "romantic" talking, but sometimes he randomly updates me on what's happening with her (he does this about his other friends too) and it rubs me the wrong way. Friends tell me that him reaching back out to his ex might be a red flag.
He's been gradually being more "soft" since quarantine started, but I can't tell if it's just because we're getting really close and he just sees me as a really close female friend who he cares a lot for vs a romantic interest. We're both kinda nerdy so if there's flirting it would just be small acts of affection (over text, grr).
I WISH I could see this play out in person but due to the pandemic, we'll probably not see each other for at least 6 months.
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