I have finally found a man who has the same vision as I do, most men i've met hasn't had a vision or an image of their "dream life" or it has differed from mine. This man has a very clear image. He says I fit perfectly into it and that we therefore are an ideal match. That all sounds great but we are complete opposites in all other areas. We don't have a single interest or hobby in common. He thinks intimacy is the most important thing whereas I think that's much less important than emotional intimacy. He is very spontaneous and I cannot handle surprises without anxiety. I, preferably, need a foundation of friendship before dating and he thinks being friends first is an insult on him and that intimacy creates the best foundation for a relationship. Not friendship. He takes himself extremely seriously, I cannot live without humor and love sarcasm for example which he absolutely does not get. Small things which causes constant arguments but we both cling onto each other anyway. All of this is very confusing to me. If we share the exact same vision, how come we don't have other things in common and we agree on so little? Does that mean we shouldn't actually be together, or that we should because we have the same vision?
I've dated other types of guys also. I really can't say what my type is still, though. No idea. The man I was most recently interested in dating, before the man i'm currently dating, was a friend of mine who is more similar to me but at the same time he is also my complete opposite in so many ways. The difference is he's way more chill and we've never argued. He doesn't have any vision though, and i'm not entirely sure I could fulfill my vision with him which is why I didn't pick him. I guess i'm scared of not getting the life I want ever. Maybe I take things too seriously. I can't figure out my type at all.
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