First of all, I want to apologize for the length, my English, and how this post will be constructed.
So my GF and I are in a relationship for about a year, and throughout this year I fucked up multiple times but I didn't realize it immediately also she didn't tell me about this right away, we had to have a big fight when some of her "friends" started to paint me as a devil incarnated.
Basically I "flirted" with a different girl right in front of her but as I said before I didn't realize it. It's not like the conversation went this way from some point, she told me it has been this way from the very beginning. Before you jump into the conclusions let me just say this:
(it will sound like a horrible, stupid excuse)
I am very insecure, shy, and have some huge trust issues on top of it I am handsome (I have been told so) and ill-mannered around people (not like I freak out and do some weird or inappropriate thing I just don't know how to act as people expect of me) also I 've been told by her friend who is a psychologist that I might be clinically depressed because of the current situation with Rona I just can't go to therapy.
Going back to the flirt I honestly don't know how to do that on purpose and she said that she frequently saw me doing it with different girls, as examples, she said about times when I talked with a female and was just polite, and nice, so I thought.
Another thing is that I didn't believe her that my friend was secretly trying to break us apart. We were together for a short time back then and I got along with that friend (female) really good from the very beginning we had a really good relationship and I knew that my GF also had trust issues and is quite jealous of most of the girls around. But this one we dealt with and basically it's just behind us I hope so at least.
These are just a few examples I know I have to change my attitude because every time we talked about those things I was in defense all the times trying to say things like "you also did/do that" and then her response was that she wanted me to see how I would feel. I can't quit thinking that she is manipulating me but so far she was right with almost 100 % of situations. I am happy with her she is not controlling at all but I just can't seem to get my mind around correct thoughts, I have trouble thinking reasonably if It goes to these situations.
You see Reddit I love her I really do, my whole family does, I want her to feel happy and loved but I feel like I am just not doing it right she tells me that I am doing a good job by supporting her when she needs it but I feel like I could do better also recently she told me that she can't tell me anything about what's going on with her and her family and friends because I am bad at listening, after that, I told her to give me one chance and if this one time I 'll try to do the explaining and trying to find a solution right away she doesn't have to talk to me about those things if she doesn't feel listened to afterward. It went alright she shares this type of info with me.
I know I wrote it just from my point of view but I can't think of any way to write hers (as I think it is) here without making it even longer.
Reddit I just want you to kinda show me how I could improve for her I really want to I just think that if I do this on my own I fuck it up again and we both will be left, heartbroken.
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