I can't think of a more descriptive title, so here's my situation:
I (m18) finally get a phone back in June and can finally talk to people. Decided I want to seek out this girl (f18) I had a crush on back in high school and see if anything could happen. For a side note, I knew this girl for the past three years in french class, so we got to know each other well, but never did anything outside of class. Finally track down her snapchat, we start talking, getting the introductions out of the way.
Last month we registered to vote together, then walked for about an hour in a local park. I enjoyed my time, and I would say she did too. When we finally got back to the parking lot, we still talked for about 10 more mins. A positive sign for me at least was that she said she had somewhere to be at 1:00, but by the time we left it was more like 1:15. Also during that time I asked her if she was ever into me (keeping it broad), and she said a little. All-in-all, not a bad first day.
After that day, we kept messaging each other, saying we enjoyed our day together, little things. I then went for the next move by inviting her to spend my upcoming birthday with me. I was planning to drive around town, visit my favorite places, restaurants, and parks. For this I gave her a 2-week notice. Reasonable, I thought. This is when things start to go down however.
A week in, I have no reply. I ask if she made a decision, then she asked for a reminder on what we were doing. Oof, not good. I ask again two days away from my b-day and got nothing. Was definitely feeling discouraged at this point, but I used getting my braces off as a conversation starter. I get a nice reply, then ask how school was going for her. I get a "Good!" back. One-worded, ouch.
So at this point, I feel it's a mixed bag, but I'm ready to accept my loses. I'll tell her I'm into her, because I'm not going to play the "what if" game with myself. I think something like that should be said in person to show I care, but also so I'll get a response.
Did I miss anything, misinterpret, scare her off? Given this is the first relationship I'm pursuing, I can understand getting through the bumps and having inexperience. Know of ways to keep a dialogue going over the phone? Also need a reasonable pretense to meet up with her again. Perhaps it's not meant to be, and I know there are many fish in the sea. Thanks for your replies!
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