I (22F) have been on 2 dates with a guy (23M) from Tinder. Both dates were spaced 2 weeks apart from each other but they were really wonderful, romantic, and intimate. We haven’t kissed yet, which is slower than how I usually take things but I’m definitely not complaining.
The thing is, is that he’s incredibly busy and doesn’t really text me. He texted frequently when we first connected but after he initiated and planned the first date, it was radio silence until the day of the date. Then we don’t talk for two weeks (which, is not totally his fault! I didn’t initiate either because I was going through some hardship during those 2 weeks) until I initiated and asked him out of curiosity if he still wanted to get to know each other because I (personally) had a fantastic time on our first date.
He replied within the hour, said that he had a great time and wanted to keep this going as well. He even apologized for not keeping in touch and said that he didn’t know how to explain himself. So we planned a second date and it was even better than our first date! Really great time and everything was just clicking. However we didn’t text in-between either.
I text him a day or two after our second date and asked him if he was free on Wednesday. We were both expressing how we wanted to see this movie when we were talking on our second date so I figured I should keep the momentum going and ask him out again. He replies and asks what’s up, then gives a forewarning that he’s pretty busy this whole week. I reply and basically say “Ah okay, was gonna ask if you wanted to see (movie name) this Wednesday because a friend told me it was the last showing” and he reads it and doesn’t reply.
Should I keep texting him and initiating?? He works 2 jobs so I am sympathetic to how time consuming that can be. Our first and second date were so easy and effortless, I haven’t felt this way in a long time with anyone in person. He’s quite a gentleman and drove both times to see me (we live 30 miles away from each other). The only difficulty I’m experiencing is the mixed signals from the communication aspect. But I’m also a textbook overthinker!
So tell me Reddit- is this worth pursing? Or am I wasting my time. My friends keep giving me mixed advice. One side says that no initiation means no interest. The other has the opposite experience in which their S.O. was like this guy at first but, then it subsided once they got to know each other more.
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