There are several answers to this question, but for the sake of depth, I want to discuss one reason in particular: your lack of self-value.
In a lot of cases, the reason you won't talk to a woman you're attracted to while out and about is because you're placing WAY too much value on her and her "high status" (looks, guys chasing her, opportunities, etc.) and placing way too little value on yourself as a man.
How do I know this to be true?
Well let me counter this question with a better one:
If you thought that by you talking to her, her life would instantly be better, why the fuck wouldn't you say hi?
It would be selfish of you to not say hi!
Let's say you had $1,000 dollars to give away for free but could only give it to the most attractive girl you see all day; would you feel any resistance approaching her and even interrupting her in the middle of what seems to be an important conversation knowing that you were about to add MASSIVE value to her life? (In the form of the $1,000)
Again, you'd have to be downright selfish to not go up and talk to her!
By putting women on a pedestal, you:
1) Devalue yourself and the value that you inherently bring to the table as a man
2) Develop the belief that good looks, expensive clothes/jewelry or any other materialistic, surface-level bullshit means that someone is better than you as a human being, which is toxic af and totally untrue.
3) And the woman becomes INSTANTANEOUSLY less attracted to you because she can sense the inferiority and insecurities that you're feeling and putting out.
So, how do you NOT put them on a pedestal, then?
Realize that women are just people.
No matter how beautiful they are
No matter how much money they have or don't have
No matter how many guys they've dated/slept with
No matter how many awesome experiences they've had, or what parties they get invited to
They are just people; people who have all had the same doubts, the same moments of insecurities, the same rollercoaster of emotions through life, the same dreams, etc.
Your job as a man is to know your own value and your own worth, and to believe in yourself far before any attractive woman or high status man has the CHANCE to decide if they want to believe in you.
"To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom."
Know who you are and what you represent, know what it is you bring to the table.
Treat her like the human being she is.
Watch your results skyrocket, and your life start to drastically change.
I hope this was helpful!
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