I am a 35F single mom. I’ve lived in my neighborhood for 2+ years and visit my local coffeeshop several times per week. The manager, Cute Coffee Guy (CCG), is ~35M and I’ve always had a crush on him.
Around March I found out that he had split with his long term girlfriend 6 months earlier. I had started to get a possibly-interested vibe from him - attentiveness, lingering smiles, sustained eye contact - just before things shut down.
The coffee shop stayed open but they set up a table in the doorway and are only doing mobile ordering and pickup through a plastic partition. Workers and visitors wear masks. There is very little opportunity to talk and it’s hard to communicate through all the layers of protection.
CCG is very friendly and will often come out from behind the bar to personally bring me my coffee which I don’t notice him doing with anyone else. If he’s busy making drinks he always waves to me from behind the bar. This could 100% just be him being good at his job, or it could be interest, and I have no idea how to find out.
I know the general rule is - don’t hit on customers and don’t hit on people working. I don’t see any chance of being able to spend time with him outside of the customer relationship. So will I just never know or is there some opportunity to find out if there’s mutual attraction? I’m not bold enough to straight up say hey I like you and still continue going there so I would essentially be giving up coffee if I did that. On the plus side, I would save a lot of money.
A couple more things to mention that may or may not be relevant:
- over the years I’ve dated and sometimes brought boyfriends into the shop. I’ve never noticed a reaction from him
- I have seen him at the grocery store next to the shop a couple times but we just said hi in passing
- most childless men in their 30’s aren’t interested in dating single moms, in my experience
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