I'm really confused and really hurt right now.
My girlfriend(19F) broke up with me(20M) last night. For a week or so beforehand, she was acting really distant and giving me one word responses when I tried to talk to her. Early in our relationship she told me that she felt comfortable and safe enough to tell me anything and would come to me if anything was wrong, so I didn't pay it much mind.
But after she'd been acting that way for a week, I felt worried, so I asked her if she still felt comfortable enough to tell me if anything was going on. She kinda just blew up at me, and told me she wanted to break up but that she didn't want to tell me why.
I asked her to please explain, because if there was an issue I wanted to try and fix it, but I had to understand what the issue was first. She told me I was pestering and guilt tripping her, and then said that it was that because I liked wishing her good morning and telling her I loved her and reaching out to talk to her, she told me that I reminded her too much of herself, and she found it annoying.
I...don't understand. I've seen her go through a different relationship(we've been friends since high school) where she was constantly putting time and effort towards a guy who wasn't reciprocating her energy and always made her feel exhausted. It seemed like all she wanted from him was some effort.
I tried my best to just be myself, and I have a lot of love to give, so I was ready and willing to put in that effort. I talked to her. Established boundaries with her. Was there for her when she needed somebody. Made plans with her when she was free. Asked her for her opinion on things. Tried to be supportive and understanding. The way I saw it, all of that is just doing the bare minimum as a boyfriend. It didn't even feel like effort to me, it was just natural. And somehow that made me annoying? I don't understand. What did I do wrong?
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