So my ex and I broke up about 8 months ago. We broke up because when I was single a few months prior to the breakup I did what any other single guy would do and slept with a new girl. She found out and told me I ‘disrespected’ our 3 year relationship- even though we were not dating at the time. I tried to fix it but to no avail. She being hurt and confused did the most irrational thing I could think of and randomly moved 8 states away.
Since than we haven’t spoke. I never tried contacting her once, never tried to get her attention, nothing. I took her moving far away as a sign of her moving on with her life. So I did the same. I also noticed that she would block me/unblock me on social media for the past few months without any reason. Again have not tried to contact her through any outlet since the breakup.
A few days ago she texted me about my Spotify being linked to her moms Spotify. A few Christmas’ ago I bought her mom an Amazon Alexa type of thing and linked my Spotify to it since she did not know how. My Spotify has been linked to it ever since and frankly it doesn’t bother me because I know her mom is using it and I don’t have any issues with her mom.
I guess my old girl is home for the holidays and I noticed the music being played started to change (her mom doesn’t listen to drake). Also I noticed a particular song titled ‘missing you’ playing constantly. I figured it was her, but didn’t want to engage. She texted me asking about how to sign out. I told her I wasn’t sure. I tried to end the conversation by saying go ahead and use it and I’ll try calling Spotify after the new year. She continued the conversation by making small talk about how I’m doing, things we used to do together, places we use to eat, etc. I was short and pretty dry in all my responses hoping she would get the message. But she didn’t. So I finally asked her ‘ is there something I can help you with other than Spotify? She said no, she just wanted to catch up. I than told her ok, no worries, and sort of ended the conversation in a Dick head manner. Now I feel bad.
I’m conflicted over the fact that she would text me out of the blue wanting to catch up, I’m conflicting over the fact that she keeps playing miss you music, I’m conflicted that she keeps blocking me/unblocking me on social media, and on top of that I’m conflicted because I still do genuinely love and care for the girl and want to express that but don’t want to come off as ‘soft’. Please help
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