I (M 23) met this girl (22) on a dating app and having gone to the same university, we had something in common and I used that as a way to setup a first date on campus (we graduated in May but stay close to the university). FYI both of us are new to this thing and never had any prior experience with the whole dating thing. I think our first date went very well and we had a good introduction and were able to comfortably gauge each others' vibe and personality traits. Based on that I asked for a second date, scheduling it on the day after the first date and she happily agreed to it. The second date was splendid and we got into more details about our personal lives and our ambitions, I really enjoyed the quality of our conversation. She seemed to be enjoying my company and had a smile on her face the entire time, it really warmed my heart because that was the first time a girl was looking me in the eye with the utmost interest and laughing at my jokes. I even asked a few times ( a bit too much even) during the conversation if she was having a good time, to which she replied something along the lines of "I wouldn't be here if I wasn't enjoying myself and I enjoy being around you", which kinda made me very happy and confident that at least I was doing things right. We talked and walked around for almost three and a half hours before it was time for her to leave; she offered to drive me back home, apparently one of her girl friends also needed a ride and so we head towards her car and waited inside the car till her girl friend arrived. BUT It was those 15 minutes of wait that felt like an eternity and made me feel like I messed up, for the first five minutes we just sat there silent and awkward. She then looks at me and just shyly smiles, I take that as a cue and gently take her hand into mine and kissed it. I pause for a minute to see her reaction and she seemed fine and so I proceed to go for a kiss and it was then that she moved her lips away, to which I really had no response and sorta got a panic attack where I just couldn't breathe and was finding it hard to gather words. While all this was happening with me, I noticed she was also struggling to compose herself and seemed to be having a panic attack. I tried calming myself so that I could comfort her, I just gently held her hand for the rest of the time until her friend arrived and she just drove me to my place. I now feel like I maybe made a move too fast and kinda regret blowing up what otherwise was a perfect date. I just feel very anxious now folks and can’t concentrate on work and just have this nagging feeling of regret.
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