I (M24) have been dating my girlfriend (19F) for a few months now. It's her first relationship (not even a casual fling or anything before) while I've had both casual and serious relationships before
When we started off, I was a bit worried that I'll come off as a manipulator with great power imbalance because of it being her first.
Frankly she does have certain instances where she blurted out "I love you" way before us knowing each other or crying badly on the first minor argument (not even a fight). I realized and understood the difference in maturity and we spoke and decided to work together on it.
Recently, however I've noticed she constantly gets bored. She's an introvert and doesn't talk much. She doesn't like watching movies which is like the best time pass if we don't wanna leave home. She doesn't have any hobbies apart from working (as a graphic designer) and sleeping.
She's not been out of home much so I tried to create special activities for us (like going to bowling, going for long drives) but it's like not very effective. I asked her directly what she enjoys which doesn't make her feel bored. Her response:- "Sleeping"
Another short but unrelated thing is that she's been in a pretty conservative household. She's never been allowed to go out of home (except now since she works). So a lot of her firsts (like first outing, first theatre without parents etc have been with me). Though she keeps telling me she wants to do all kinds of stuff which she never really got the freedom for.
While I'm happy for her personal growth, I'm conflicted in 2 ways. At one point, advice suggests that I'm older and it's her first relationship so if anything, she'll be extra obsessed like the high school love.
The other getting bored and exploring makes me worried, the moment she tries new experiences, somehow I'll be a burden which stops her from exploring things.
For now, we both love each other. Our sexual and emotional chemistry is fantastic. I've met her parents and she's made me become a big part of her life.
Tl;dr Girlfriend is in first relationship. She constantly gets bored and hints about living life to fullest after not being allowed to by her parents.
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