BACKGROUND: I’m 23, male, straight, shy, and 100% inexperienced in dealing with girls, in the romantic sense. Not an joke: I’ve never even held hands with a girl before, much less more, casual or otherwise.
I’m not diagnosed with any disorder but I have some self-esteem problems, but i prefer doing stuff alone; I am by nature a private man, but feel a bit lonely sometimes. I have a few close friends that i hang out with, but I have been told by people I’ve known (family and not) that I seem aloof or "sad" when people talk, or try to get to know me better. I agree with this, so I’ve tried to ease up, with little success as i can barley hold a conversation with strangers. This lack of experience is why I need some basic things explained to me.
THE SITUATION: I have a crush on a co-worker who started this May. She works in another department (we have very minimal work-related contact, so we almost never speak to one another aside from "good morning' and a smile.
However her cubicle is right in front of the bathroom doors, and every single i finish using the toilet and exit i notice from from very edge of my sight that she glances at me for a few seconds when i walk by her. So that little reason i feel like she has the smallest interest in me.But that's little proof that she has anything towards me, plus,I am busy, lately and i can she is even more busy and we’re pretty much strangers so it seems bizarre to me a) that I feel like this, b) that I feel like pursuing this in some manner, c) and that there’s a chance in hell she'd be at all interested.
QUESTIONS BASED ON THE ABOVE: Assume that he is single, and that the office has no policy against dating people in the workplace:
-
Am I mistaking “just being friendly/polite” feelings for “omg I totally have a crush on him” feelings? Does it matter or is it bad that I don't know which feeling it is? How do you tell the difference if it’s not obvious? (I think she's cute, but it’s not like I want to jump him or come too strong.
-
Would it be considered creepy for me to say to her;, “hey, I have an idea! We should see a movie sometime, do you want to grab a drink, would you like to go out sometime?” do to the severe lack of interaction?
-
If the interaction we’ve had is NOT considered normal grounds for me to ask (or if the following method is better), should I try to have a conversation with her (which is difficult due a severe lack of opportunities at work to even greet her let alone talk with her) and what to talk about.
-
Should I just not bother?
-
Am I way, way overthinking this? Is the best thing to do just to relax, blurt out the question, and if she says no, then reply, “OK!” and then act exactly as before? I don't want to weird her out.
P.S. this last will most likey seem creepy as hell but our company has a site on bamboo HR and her page was added when got hired so there some stuff like her hobbies favorite X and Y and so forth that might be helpful.
TLDR version: i like this girl at work, but i'm horrible with women, please help
[link] [comments]
from Dating Advice https://ift.tt/2H0ZH1D
via IFTTT
No comments:
Post a Comment