Probably not the best place to post this, so let me know if I should move this elsewhere.
There's a girl in college I like, we've talked several times and been on two dates over the course of a few months. She's quite shy and awkward, seems a bit nervous when we're talking, fidgeting quite a lot, and judging by the way she acts in general, she doesn't have much dating experience... which would make two of us.
Things are going very slowly, both of us are pretty slow to open up, but she seems all right as far as I got to know her.
Anyway, one thing I'm confused about is why she's been lying about a few things regarding high school/college.
In our country you get to choose a specialization for high school, I did specialization A, she did B. A is usually slightly better viewed than B, but it's no big difference. Now in college we're studying the same thing. Most students here come from specialization A, because it's more related to the course, so when we talked about high school I just assumed she did A (even though I did some stalking beforehand and knew for a fact that she did B, but it would've been weird to say it - yeah, I could've just asked her, I messed up here). She didn't deny it or anything, maybe it wasn't clear I "assumed" she did A, even though later I specifically asked her about how she found A to be, and she didn't say she actually didn't do A, just went on talking about it, though it was obvious from what she was saying that she actually did B. I don't know why she'd do that - is it just out of awkwardness, being too embarrassed to go back and say "yeah, I actually did B, you got it wrong" after staying quiet about it for so long?
Another similar thing was related to a college course she took, which I also took one year before and quite liked. She told me a few months ago she enrolled in it, and when we last saw each other recently I asked her how the assignment on it went (even though I found out she unenrolled in the meantime, but again couldn't say it), and again she didn't say she wasn't doing it anymore, just said generic stuff like "it was fine, not too bad" and so on.
I'm really confused as to why she'd lie about it. I mean, it's no big deal, it's not as if the truth were uncomfortable, or as if it'd change my opinion of her, or make the conversation too awkward. I just can't get my head around it.
Has anyone been in a similar situation before, maybe provide some insight into why someone would do this?
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