Just went on my first date in 7 years after ending a LTR. Met her on bumble chatted for a few weeks and met up for coffee today. The problem is I have absolutely no baseline for what is a good or bad date. It's kind of a mixed bag. I got positive and negative signals.
It was just coffee but we talked for two full hours. She ate before hand but about an hour in she said she was getting hungry so got some food. She could have called it a day right there, but she didn't, and we talked for another hour.
I hit the obvious stuff no prob: well dressed, clean, polite, open body language, smiling, lots of eye contact, compliment her appearance, and friendly. She held eye contact a lot, conversation was good but not that playful. I was nervous so was kind of stiff about cracking goofy jokes, wasn't able to show much personality, and prob came off kinda awkward. She laughed at most of my jokes but not that much. Except for one or two that were genuinely funny. A lot of convo was about her occupation, which was fine, but felt more like I was doing professional networking than dating. Generally, decent flow and mutual interest in each other.
About an hour and 20 min in (after she got food), she mentioned her friend had some problem last night and had made plans to help her. That was how she established a time limit for the date.
When we left she said "talk to you soon?", To which I said yes, definitely. I gave her a hug and said I had a great time. After some thinking about how it went I texted her saying again I had a good time chatting. She said "you too!", So I asked her out for a second date. It's been 4 hours since then with no response...what girl doesn't check her phone for 4 hours on a sat night?
I'm starting to think maybe I messed up more than I realize. I'm also over analyzing since it's a learning experience for me. I like her, but have no clue if she likes me.
I also ultra messed up my greeting when I first walked up. I didn't hug or even shake her hand, just said hi it's nice to meet you, stood there for half a second looking at each other, then sat down. Lmao I'm dumb. What do you think? Good or bad date? How do I push through nerves and show personality?
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