I keep having shitty, insecure thoughts. I don't act on them, but they're really self-defeating and don't know how to just sorta ignore/stop having them.

Pretty straight forward, really. I'll start talking to a girl and hitting it off, but some days my insecurities get the better of my head. If she said she's having a movie night with a friend that made her dinner, I'll ask "what'd she make" and she replies "they made X for dinner," without using a female pronoun back, I assume it's a dude and she'd just rather be with him than me and it's definitely romantic or sexual or both.

Obviously I'll never act on that, I'm never gonna accuse her of anything shitty, I'm not gonna argue with her or start shit, but it internally makes me feel lesser and it's almost entirely self-inflicted. If a girl is showing interest in me, I just have to wonder what the catch is or just assume she's talking with more guys, better guys, and I may as well just back off so she'll find someone better.

It's this stupid disconnect between knowing she's talking to me cause she wants to and feeling like I'm just there for some sort of entertainment or attention until she finds someone better.

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