I don't want to be judged for my career or earnings. I'm ambitious (at last) and am finishing my masters, have certs, etc., and am getting a good-paying job within the year.
I've grown up wealthy but worked some jobs that were pretty basic, flying under the radar, and dressing like my father. He's the kind of guy who you would never guess by the way he dressed that he was wealthy, who you might scoff at an elevator on the way to a talk, (only to see him take the podium). Think a stained old t-shirt from the '90s with a fraying graphic, fat, with an old Timex that he got from his father for sentimental value, driving a car from 2011, and old hiking waterproof pants and stained, beat up old sneakers. In the winter, add a windbreaker, also from the '90s. Dude does not give a solitary fuck about his appearance beyond whatever isn't getting him arrested for indecency, and I frankly admire him for it and share in the humor.
On the other hand I tend to work out a lot, but I otherwise try very hard to not flash any obvious signs of wealth. I've realised after being cheated on repeatedly for an incorrect assumption that I 'don't have money' (I do, I just save up a lot. Living in a one bedroom apartment in a share house, for example, or taking a bicycle or mass transit instead of a car/uber/taxi to wherever I'm going, etc.). It has screwed with my perception of what women are after being cheated on for their (mistaken) idea of my earning potential, a few times. I've been stood up and walked out on mid-date for saying what I do for work (mechanic) while I am putting myself through grad school.
Anyways, the point of this is: I'm now about to take on a job that will pay me considerably more.
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Are most women like this- focused more on a man's job and career and ambition than the content of his character, beliefs, reason, values, and so on?
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What would happen if I married and ever got laid off, or finished a contract and couldn't immediately land another- will they leave outright?
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Should I just flash my wealth and not give a crap about what happens, is that just "the toll" for dating women "successfully"?
When I try to date, I get a lot of "seeking arrangement" and "sugar" lifestyle ads which I don't think are appealing- I come from a good family. I don't think I could accept that, I'm trying to find someone to start a family with, not some entertainment for an otherwise boring night in.
The older I get, the more I look at my old man (who managed to, in his own words, "marry the most beautiful woman I'd ever laid eyes on-" and probably while dressed like he is now!) the more I think "he's got life all figured out!"
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