Just wanting to put this out into the world and hoping it will give people some guidance or just perspective on dating.
2 years ago, i was in a long distance relationship and it turned me into a person who i did not like. Someone who was always in need of attention from my significant other because the distance didn't give me what i needed. Long story short, i was always seeking constant emotional attention from my ex because i couldn't have him in real life. It took a lot out of him and he eventually broke up with me.
And not having that 24/7 attention i was use too, i immediately jumped into dating apps. At first i thought it was for sex (being so sex deprived for months, i wanted to f*** every guy i found attractive) but eventually the sex was no longer fun and what i really wanted was to replace the 24/7 attention.
Fast forward till now, after many shitty dating experiences and disappointments, i've finally had enough. I got rid of them all. I've tried to quit dating apps many times before but at the most, i would be off them for 2 weeks and then back on.
I've been off dating apps for over a month now and it has been the most interesting a relieving experience ever. I no longer have that need for attention or even care for male attention. I concluded that i've been addicted to dating apps (dating in general) and I do sometimes get the feeling of being lonely but its easier to brush off now.
I spend a lot of time just wanting to make friends and just experiencing things on my own. I think i can finally say i am now ok with being on my own. It definitely wasn't a pretty revelation but i'm no longer lying to myself about what i want with guys.
I guess my tip, which requires a lot of will power, is to learn to be ok on your own. It's going to be a struggle but it might be worth it.
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