I've was lurking on here a bit before i decided to ask her out. I thought I'd write this for anyone who's in a similar situation.
the general consensus I got was "don't ask out girls at work (especially those that work the front desk).
Because "omg she's paid to nice you."
And don't ask out girls at the gym because "she's just there to train, not to be hit on!!"
This girl did both. So double no? The thing is we would always talk and it always felt like it was different.
So I decided to just do it. Didn't want to regret not doing it.
I made it easy for her to turn it down in case I had missed read things. next time i was at the gym i asked, "are you free tonight, do you want to do to something"
I figured she'd other say "not free" meaning not interested, "not free but how about another time?" Or "Yes".
This is different to asking "What are you doing tonight?" which is conversation started. Then hoping she says "nothing" and then asking her. Because if she doesn't want to go she now has to back track.
She said yes and we went out for ice cream :)
In short don't give yourself self limiting beliefs that you can't ask someone out at a certain place. Start a conversation and if they enjoy taking to you, no harm in trying.
You're not going to go home and pat yourself one the back and go "good job i was about to ask that girl out but then i remembered i was at the gym. And she's only there to work out. I'm such a good guy."
Be normal if she says no.
Edit: this blew up a lot more then I thought it would. There's already some good discussion on why you should or shouldn't do ask someone out in these situations (so I won't reply to too many more replies). That's all I really wanted in the first place. There was nothing but negativity when I was looking through reddit seeing if someone was in a similar situation.
For me I knew if didn't ask her I would tell myself it's because I was following these "social rules". But deep down I'd know it's because I was too scared to. I hope it helps any future people.
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