Oh man, I feel crazy for even asking this question here, but it's been driving me crazy since last Thursday night. For a quick background on me, I'm 27, have casually dated a bunch but feel like I'm too aggressive and too independent and therefore have never been able to settle in a relationship. With that said, I've had quite a few repeat flings and two-three night "stands", so I am not necessarily a stranger to that game.
But, my question comes with what happened last Thursday. A guy (age 27) came up to me at a bar that I frequent and my friends and his friends all joined groups, and we flirted a lot that evening. Obviously lots of drinking involved. He invited me and my friend back to his place but I said no and ended up inviting them over to mine. We kissed a lot and held hands the whole way home. We all chatted for a while at my place (about what - I couldn't really tell you) and all played Uno (LOL - the only game I had available). Then once my friends and his friends all left he did the whole "am I staying or going" (nicely though) and I told him I wanted to go to bed but he was welcome to stay.
He did stay over, and here's the catch, we didn't even have sex! If we had properly hooked up I wouldn't be so confused, but we literally made out and cuddled all night. I had too much to drink so I don't remember the details of all of our conversations, so I'm wondering if I had made a weird comment about not wanting to actually have sex, or if I said anything else dumb (I know we absolutely did not have sex though even though I had been drinking). I would think this would lead him want to run away fast, but in the morning he slept in pretty late (I was awake doing the awkward pretending to be asleep thing), and we continued to sleepily cuddle in the morning until I said I had to get up to be somewhere soon and he said he should probably go too.
The morning was definitely awkward once we got up from bed (he made a comment saying that he had a lot to drink last night and asked if I did too), and then when I walked him to the door he gave me a hug and joked about "maybe we can play Uno again sometime" and then he took his phone out and opened up a new contact card and asked for my number.
It's been almost a week. I haven't heard from him. This is my first "one night stand" (again, didn't actually have sex) where I think I'm somehow crushing on the dude big time. My question, would you be disappointed by the whole no sex thing? Did I lead him on? I feel guilty because I don't remember a lot of our conversation, but why would he get my number and be nice about this if it was just a one night stand and he could have just said goodbye and left with no number? Did he feel bad for me? I have lots of questions on this type of "hook up" where no hooking up happens and the person still remains sweet and doesn't run out first thing in the morning. Thoughts?
If you read this far you are an amazing human and I appreciate any thoughts/advice you have to ease my crushed soul right now (haha).
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