So my best friend (22, M) just confessed his love to me (19, F) over the phone this morning...he basically said he's very interested and wants to date/be in a relationship.
We're really close, to say the least. He's like a brother to me. We do everything together and we know each other on a deep level. We've been really vulnerable at times. One of our favorite activities is climbing buildings on campus and stargazing...after that we can talk for hours. He is such a great human being and I have so much love in my heart for him.
We have both had pretty bad luck in terms of dating in college and we've been trying to set each other up with different people this last term. I have to admit I dragged my feet a little because I was contemplating us being together although I was more interested in being just friends. The last few weeks I noticed a change in his behavior and became suspicious that he wanted something more. I wasn't sure how I felt about it. One time I happened to be touching his face and he got really......."excited." I was pretty traumatized to see my best friend like this, although I know some things cannot be controlled. It's just....he's great but I'm not sure I have a desire to be romantic with him. I mean maybe but not really. I mean I've thought about it but idk if he's the type of person I'd want to date, and there's other people that I'm more interested in.
The hardest part was hearing his quivering, scared voice on the phone this morning. He said he had been conflicted about me all term but now he knows he wants something more than friendship. He is such a wonderful guy and I wish I was more interested in him like that. I told him I was still conflicted and that I've thought about being with him but I just wasn't sure. I said I would be interested in going on some dates and that I wasn't rejecting him but I'm just not sure if I'm making the right decision. I just want the world for him. I don't know what to do. I'm scared that I led/am leading him on, I'm scared that our friendship will be harmed if I turn him down/express interest in other men, and most importantly I don't want to break his heart. God bless him. Please help.
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