I'm (26F) worried I might be wasting my time with this guy (28M) that I've been seeing for over a year now. He talks about moving in together one day, having children with me, and marriage in the future too. Sometime he talks about it more than I do, and he tells me every single day without fail how much he wants it all with me and everything.
I called him my boyfriend accidentally to a girl friend while having drinks the other week, and I realised we never established that with each other before. So I corrected myself but made sure to ask him about it later. When I brought it up I just asked him, how do you refer to me? Friends with benefits or girlfriend?
All he said was "If you need to call it something, call it whatever you want." I'm honestly appalled and I have no idea how to continue that conversation. I told him to drop it and I'd rather talk about it in person. I keep putting it off but he wants to talk more about it. How should I navigate this kind of conversation?
I'm definitely not overly eager for him to say that I am his girl friend, or anything. There is no right or wrong answer. I just think that we are both adults and should be able to have a clear understanding of how we show up in each other's lives. I'm not 19 anymore and I don't want to just "hang out" or "kick it". I'm a grown woman and at this point I feel like if he cant have an adult conversation with me a year into our relationship, then what are we even doing here right?
TL;DR The guy I have been seeing for a year told me that if I need to call our relationship something, "call it whatever you want". Appalled and shocked and I'd like pointers on how to continue the conversation with him.
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