We’re here, swiping more than ever on the apps with all the new free time we have, but we are all feeling the same struggles. Let’s face it, this sucks for those of us who had just started a relationship or are trying to start new ones over the phone. Everyone is at least a little bit depressed, even if you don’t want to admit it. It’s hard to feel interested in anyone right now because you can’t date normally and there’s no real end in sight at the moment. I’m not here to tell you to get all dressed up for a FaceTime date where you order the same take out food... sure that’s adorable and sweet, but it’s also uncomfortable for almost people.
So here’s my advice: 1) don’t date or 2) date with the lowest exceptions possible
If you’re going to swipe and maybe start a few conversations, don’t have the expectation that this guy (or girl) even if he/she was nice and you two clicked, is going to demonstrate any real interest and investment. It is unrealistic to expect that right now, so try not to get your hopes too high. I matched with several people yesterday, exchanged a couple messages, and today have 0 interest in replying simply because I don’t see the point in starting something right now if I can’t actually meet them. I’m sure many other people of both genders feel the same way I do.
If you know you will likely get your feelings hurt, delete the apps and do something for yourself. There is a small chance that you yourself can thrive over digital communication and then a small chance you’ll match with someone who also thrives over digital communication and an even smaller chance that you’ll like each other equally.
If you are finding your previous interest BC (before corona) fading off, try not to force conversations or take it personally. Many people, like myself, get tired of text conversations if they don’t lead to making plans. I am currently in this situation and I spent a week feeling sad and re-analyzing my every move. Bottom line, it wasn’t me and I gotta let it go, not force anything.
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