Hey everyone! I'm relatively new to reddit, and this sub is great. I've seen quiete a few posts recently where people are feeling discouraged about their dating life, and feel pressure to find someone, but feel it's impossible. I just wanted to share the advice I give all my friends, and that has worked for me on dating apps!
It's so easy to get lost in a sea of profiles on Tinder or Hinge and feel a little lost. My biggest advice is to look at swiping as more of an opportunity to talk with someone you wouldn't normally talk with, even if they're not necessarily your "type." Try to remove the pressure at least for right now of finding a boyfriend or someone special, and instead give people a chance who you wouldn't normally consider. Mayne they have an interesting bio, or a picture that you think is really beautiful, or their career is something you've always wondered about. Swipe right! There's no harm in getting to know someone, and you could find a really special connection with someone you wouldn't have normally considered. Being socially distanced is the perfect time to do this: there's no pressure to go out on a date or meet anyone in person, so just explore.
This has worked for me a few times. When I would swipe looking for someone "my type" and felt pressure to find someone, nothing would ever work out. But when I would just start silly conversations with interesting people, I found really special relationships. My (22F) current boyfriend (24M) is the perfect example. His pictures were not great quality, but his hinge bio made me giggle... it was something about him watching Steak videos on youtube every night. I started our message out with "quick, make me a steak I'm starving," being totally goofy, and he played off of it and had me giggling nonstop. Even though his pictures wouldn't have compelled me to swipe right usually, our talk was amazing and I was immediately attracted to him. Fast forward to our first date, turns out he's insanely handsome, too! His pictures just didnt do him justice!
Anyway, I just want anyone feeling discouraged to know that everyone feels that way at one point or another. Sometimes it's good to just have fun and go in with no expectations, just looking for fun, silly, engaging conversations.
P.S. my favorite dating app by far is Hinge. I might be a little biased, though, since that's where I met my man :)
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