I’m (F25), I just moved to a new area where I started hooking up with a guy (John) and he introduced me to his friends but no one knows we hooked up. He’s never been super attentive in the past when we’re not together, such as texting/calling me often. It’s usually just to call to do something/hang out but other than that it’s me usually putting the effort to get a conversation. Fast forward into quarantine, he has been out of town for 3 weeks and I am alone with no roomate, pet, job...I am just lonely af. One of his friends (Ryan) asked if I wanted to hang with him and his roommate Jessica because they have been quarantined too and they feel bad that I’m alone. So, I accepted the offer and I tried calling John just to let him know what I’ve been up to and tell him how excited I am to hang with Ryan & Jessica. However, John ignores my call so I decide to just go anyways. I have been going there almost everyday to hang with Ryan & Jessica. And even when Jessica wasn’t there things between Ryan and I were platonic. John finds out that I have been going there to hang out with them, and now he is consistently on my line asking what I’m up to. He finally broke and he told me how upset he is that I’m hanging with Ryan because apparently Ryan thinks I’m very beautiful. (Ryan has been nothing but nice and respectful towards me, but I would never go for him like that even though he sometimes flirts with me and it’s flattering) so now, I’m stuck in between being lonely and doing nothing so that John is happy, or I can continue to hang with Ryan as friends and potentially ruin what I have with John. I don’t want to ruin what I have with John, but I also don’t want tension between us and lose what we have. On the other hand, I don’t want to lose Ryan as a friend and don’t want to just ghost him on hanging out when he keeps asking to come hang with him and Jessica. Ryan and I are from the same hometown and have similarities so it’s nice to hang with someone that is so much like me. However, today I started noticing that Ryan is trying to shoot his shot (for example, flirty text messages and calling me a cutie) so even though things are platonic on my end, I’m starting to think Ryan is forming feelings for me. So if Ryan knew that John and I were hooking up, I’m sure it would be an issue for everyone involved. But also, I’m torn because I’m single so I can technically do or hang with whoever I want, but it seems like whatever I do in this situation, someone is going to get hurt.
TL;DR Been hooking up with a guy. He wasn’t very attentive but now suddenly is because I’ve been hanging with his friend. I don’t have feelings for his friend, but his friend seems to be liking me. I don’t want to lose either of them. What do I do?
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