Hi! Before, I start, I would just like to make it clear that I know no one knows someones intentions unless you ask. I just wanted to get an idea of what you guys think.
We've been friends for over 2 years. I met him my freshman year of college (I'm currently a junior) and it was clear he was interested in me from the beginning. Long story short, we talked for awhile, eventually kissed (thats the furthest we've gone) and I eventually asked him what his intentions were. He said he didn't want a relationship at the time and we left off on good terms and stayed as good friends. Sophomore year came along and we still stayed as friends and he would ask to hang out here and there but we never did anything physical or anything.
Summer entering this school year, things changed completely. We began to talk a lot through Snap, he would tag me on things on Facebook. Immediately when classes started in August, he asked me to hang out which then became a consistent thing throughout the year. From August to March, he did a lot of things for me such as: asked to hangout a lot more often, always pay for my coffee several times, always try to hold my hand when we hung out, bought me wine, cooked for me (even bought me a steak because I specifically asked for one), asked to hang out in the city and Facetime over winter break. We were at two parties together this year and he stayed by my side the whole time which was unusual because the past two years he would be hooking up with other girls. At one of those parties, I was dancing close with another guy and I knew he got jealous but just didn't say anything. Anyways, he also remembered my birthday and bought me a bottle of wine after I jokingly asked for one. At my party, I got really drunk and was apparently flirting with his friends and one of his friends the next day told me he looked stressed when I did that.
Fast forward to March, our school required all of us to leave because of COVID19. The day before we all left, he asked to hangout with me because he said "this might be the last time I see your face." We get coffee, he pays and holds my hand. Eventually, we go back to my room and we talk for a bit. Eventually, he asks if I wanted him to kiss me and I say no. He asks why and I say I'm not good at this physical stuff (By physical I mean like kissing/making out - i have no experience) and he ensures me its fine. I say I'm only comfortable with just the cheek and he just kisses me on the cheek and kind of just makes out with my neck. We then cuddle for 2 hours. Later that same night, I go to the bar with friends and I get a text from him saying he's coming too. I dance with my guy friends and then later, I see him hooking up with another girl. I then got kind of pissed so I find another guy where I eventually sit on his lap and I knew he saw it.
I'm confused: did he just put in all this effort throughout this year just to hook up with me? Or did he want an actual relationship with me? It's weird cause ever since freshman year we would keep in contact through some sort of social media, but now we haven't talked at all since the quarantine (like 4ish weeks).
I'm not sure if I should reach out because I don't know if he still has feelings for me or if he even thinks about everything that has happened.
tl;dr: I don't know if this guy just wanted to hookup or an actual relationship
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