We broke up, but he still wants to date.....

I met this guy in August of last year and we started dating, by October we were “official”. Everything was going great until January when he read my journal and we almost broke up because I didn’t disclose to him that I cheated on my ex boyfriend. I was going to take it to my grave, hence writing it in my journal. We decide that we should try therapy because we both have been married and divorced and we know that our relationship is a rare gem and we need to work this kink out.

Fast forward to February, he still can’t cope with me not telling him that I cheated on my ex and we break up. A weeks worth of us crying and many I love yous, we decide to take a step back and just continue to “date” but not focus on our future so much and focus on the present. Just be together.

Well last week some girl messages me “are you and joe* in an open relationship?” I say “no” and I call him. Apparently he’s been on tinder since February and has went on dates with other girls! I didn’t know we weren’t committed to one another. I just thought we had slowed things down. Hence going back to dating. 😳 now I feel emotionally cheated because he tells me he loves me every day.

Now he says he’s in love with me but can’t commit to me. Says fuck everyone else I’m his number one. But am I really? He says he’s tying and going to be more aware of my needs, he wants me to be happy, and he’s sorry we’re stuck in this unconventional dating thing.

Things you should know. I LOVE this man and will fight tooth and nail for him! This man DOES love me. There are some apparent trust issues on his end from his ex wife. He spends almost every off day he has with ME! We plan things together later in the year with the intention of still being “together” then. We know each other’s families and close friend groups. We text/call daily multiple times a day.

Please do not tell me what a piece of shit this man is because he is NOT. I’m just looking for advice, not a public lashing.

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