I am not a monogamous person. May last serious relationship was an open relationship and I have since been involved with multiple people. I am really happy with my lifestyle choice and prefer it so far to one monogamous committed relationship. I was engaged at one point with my high school sweetheart of 6 years and that has really shaped how I treat women in my relationship in that I am a very affectionate person. My love language is physical touch and time spent together so I tend to want to cuddle, be physically close, hold hands, kissing, slapping ass, and all that cute stuff. I like spending the night or having them spend the night. I also love doing nice things like making meals, cleaning for them, take them out to nice places, get them nice gifts, try new hobbies with them, and go to places they like. I am also very sociable to I love meeting their friends and hanging out with them, hanging out with my friends, and even meeting their parents.
I make it known that I am not monogamous and that I see other people. I also encourage them to see other people. I try my best to let them know I care about them but I am not looking for anything serious.
My friends tend to say that I must not care at all about these women or just view them as objects. One of my closest friends says I am just a player trying to pretend that I am not one. Even if what they are saying is more of them just poking fun at me, it still feels tongue in cheek and it makes me question myself.
In particular one woman I am with, we met at a bar and she is only 21. I’ll admit that with her I wasn’t very explicit about me seeing other people but I told her that I am not looking for anything serious and she knows I see other people (I’ll say I am hanging out with so and so, and I sometimes have marks on me). I feel like she is comfortable because she was sending me pictures of some of her Hinge matches. However, in February I took her out for Valentines and afterwards she said she was falling in love with me but if I don’t feel the same way she still wants us to continue what we have been doing. I told her that I don’t feel the same way. I care about her but that I am not looking for anything serious. My said she clearly just wants to keep me around because she believes she can change my mind and that I need to drop her. Maybe that is a nicer thing to do but I don’t see a need for it since we are both consenting adults and she said she wanted to still hang out.
Maybe I have been to affectionate? Do I need to spend less time with these women? Should I stop doing things for them? That makes me feel way less comfortable. I like showing affection. I even show my friends the same amount of affection without the romantic physical contact.
TL;DR I show a lot of affection to the people I date. I am not monogamous. Friends think I am just a player. Should I stop showing so much affection?
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