Let me first tell you something about myself and what i look like. I am a Black male From Brooklyn, NY 5'7 with a gap in my front teeth, and can look, i guess like a Stereotypical "Brookyln Boy". So obviously I'm no Idris Elba or a Trey Songz.
Last summer my friends and I was in a Brooklyn sports Bar close to the Barclays Center around the Atlantic Mall. We were celebrating the end of another 2 week summer AT Drill that was stationed at Ft. Drum with the National Guard (in civilian clothing). Well within the next half hour of socializing I saw a women walk through the door. The women looked very pretty, very vibrant, and very engaging. In the next 10 minutes I saw a couple guys looking like they were trying to buy here a drink and converse with her; the way she engaged with them in an upbeat conversation piqued my interest, so i went over their to see what she was really about.
From then on i separated from my friends and I went over there to say, “You look incredible in your dress, we should go somewhere quieter to talk, so I Don’t damage your eardrums by shouting over these guys. lol” She looked me straight in my eyes with a smile and told me “she wasn’t interested”. Well, i smiled back and responded with “Ok, I’ll be with my friends when you change your mind” and I walked away (That interaction didn't last more than 45 seconds).
Well, about a couple of hours gone by and i guess this women must have seen me converse with the girls around my social circle, because as she was leaving, she stopped by my friends and i, and gave me her number.
I called her about 2 days later and arranged to meet on a Saturday night, she messaged me on a Friday evening and said "she couldn't make it to our date." she didn't give me a reason or another time.....lol. i was pretty upset, but instead of letting her feel my emotions i took the rest of the day to laugh it off and replied the next morning "Don't fret about it, Let me know when your open to meeting up, as i will love to get to know you better" (My commander always told me to never burn bridges.)
About 3 Weeks later (of No Contact and assuming i was ghosted) i was filling out some paperwork in the armory, she calls me to apologize for being absent and unavailable, and i responded "Nah You good, you can make it up to me later this week, Friday at 8:30 ( with a wink emoji)" I turned up at the location and she messaged me that she was gonna be running 30 mins late......(sigh) i was a bit frustrated but i quickly let it go and responded with "It's cool, I've met some nice people here, Don't be afraid to ask the MTA if you need help" (with a silly emoji) lol.
While i was there i was already engaged with a group of people, when she showed up to the location. She apologized, and i then took her to a quiet area for a more casual conversation. I had her Laughing and engaging and it was genuinely a great time. After about an hour she said that she needed to go. I responded "alright, i'm not ready to leave yet, but i'll walk you to the subway." I was walking her to the Train station as we were still chatting and teasing each other. She was very responsive, touching me and holding me tightly; when we got to the station i went for the kiss..... She pulls away at the last second and says "I don't kiss on the first date."I smiled out a response "that's cool, i'll just see you later then, be safe." as i walked back to the bar to meet up with the guys i met that day. At that point i felt like she already gave up her poker hand, i could tell she was very interested in me and vastly inexperience in dating above her weight class. i decided to sit back, enjoy my summer and see if she would contact me later.
A week went by, and i already knew i left a great enough impression that she'll call me back eventually (if she did). She contacts me and i organized another date to invite her over to my house instead of a formal City Date. she agreed and initially sounded excited. The day comes and at the last minute she messaged me and tried to change the location. I Responded to her " i already organized dinner, and if you're still hungry you can come over if you changed your mind." She didn't reply and i ended up eating by myself as the Yankees get Curbed stomp by the Red Sox for the 3rd night in a row (Chad Green Sucks BTW)
The Next Week (No Contact): She messaged me saying she was REALLY Sorry, and it was "A very Bitchy thing to do." (we can agree on that lol) I Responded "Thanks for the apology, I'll see you when our schedule aligns." She Then continues to message me with a invitation to Long Island as she rented a condo to get away from the city for the rest of her summer. She sets up the date and i Arrived a bit early. When she greeted me at the door i Said a cheesy Joke on related to how she arrives Late and i arrive early lol...... i never seen her laugh so hard.
She's a wonderful cook btw, and She looked really amazing, i felt i like i was drastically under dressed. The chemistry in the air felt like it was on steroids and we eventually ended up kissing before we even set the food on the table, talking was very easy with her and very warm and engaging. we had sex later that night after dinner and We ended up seeing each other for the next month before she went back to Indiana.
We are not together as i still live in Brooklyn and have goals, but we do keep in contact from time to time even if we're dating other people. She told me she appreciated me for showing her how she should conduct herself when she's dating someone and grew into a better person for it; and I told her how I Appreciated her for allowing me to bloom into a more patient and understanding Young man. The more i got to know her, the more i realized her actions didn't depict her Core Value just her past dating experiences. With all the shit she gave me 10/10 i'd do that shit again, i gained a new friend and became a better man.
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