Long rant lol. Hello, new to this. I’ve been online friends with this guy for years, we’ve spoken here and there and he’s tried to get close to me BUT it was either the wrong time or I was in a relationship.
Well, about 2 months ago, I broke up with my ex, July to be exact and me and this guy started talking here and there. He then asked me to add him on Discord. I did. He seemed super into talking to me.
One day he called maybe 10 times, messages. He really wanted to talk to me, like on the phone. I was busy, it didn’t happen. The next day he tries again, I was just shy and didn’t feel like it.
He then messages me apologizing for bothering me, he wasn’t. I’m just, shy.
Days go by, I was busy, we started chatting here and there. Then bam, he calls 14 times, I was so anxious. I gave in and answered. We spoke on the phone for maybe 4 hours or something.
He seemed to REALLY enjoy talking to me. I never make men a priority because it isn’t smart. So, we’re friends, we talk every day or every other day and yes things got sexual fast, mostly because of it the built up over the years. I was fine with it.
So, he admits he really really likes me. He tells me he sometimes thinks of being in a relationship with me and so forth. I told him I just wanted to be friends.
We get real close by now and talking every day. He then asks me about my ex’s. There’s a guy I met from the online chat thing we started talking in, and he immediately got weird. He asks if we have a thing or if I was romantically involved with him. I laugh and ignore it, I told him it’s not important and that is it. Nothing is going on.
I get drunk, super drunk this past weekend and get sappy. I was high and heavily intoxicated and told him I loved him. Yes, the kiss of death, I said I love you.
He is hesitant then says “I love you too” Things get sappy and what not. That’s when things changed.
He started getting a bit distant and his answers were short. We spoke again on Monday, just to get a clear vision of how stupid I acted drunk. I apologized and he brought it up, he said “you’re in love with me”. I said, well yeah. He said “I love you too”. He also said but hey we don’t have to put a label on it, I like what we have going on. He also said “if you want to date so and so (the guy he thinks I have a thing with) you can” he said “I have no expectations” and also “my heart has been broken before to the point it was real bad so”
We concluded with goodnight and he said “I will talk to you very soon”.
We haven’t spoken since. The last message I sent was “Have a good night and have a good day at work tomorrow ❤️”
It’s been 3 days, he saw the message but hasn’t replied. Now, if I was ghosted it’s understandable. I’m an attractive 30 year old woman, I own a business and I am realistic. I don’t attach myself to anyone.
I don’t plan to message him, that message was enough, it was nice and if he read it and didn’t bother to reply, I take it as a loss. Should I uninstall the app and move on? Should I maybe message him again? Should I keep waiting? I don’t understand why a guy who was so into me, said he even had dreams about me years ago, we both were very sexually attracted to each other and he pursued me and said how much he likes me just disappears. I wasn’t even clingy towards him. He always said he’s scared to screw things up and doesn’t want to lose me, but this? Why lie and say you love someone and then do that.
I’m just confused as this has never ever happened to me.
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