Basically this guy I had dated for 1,5 months abruptly out of nowhere broke it off. The bottomline was that he had recently (July) gotten out of a 2 year relationship with a girl he had been close friends with for 10 years (who, eventually, cheated on him). He told me because of that he felt like he wasn't completely ready for something that he could see turning into something serious, and that the timing was making things complicated. He stressed that he enjoyed every single moment with me, and that "it would probably be different if we did this at another stage" and that it had nothing to do with me but with his own headspace. A big "it's you, not me".
The day after that message we met up to talk about it and say our final goodbyes. We hugged, we kissed, we cried, and I truly felt like we got so much closer. It was the most intimate conversation we've had. He emphasized again that it had nothing to do with me, that he wished the timing got better. When I got home I almost immediately receive a message from him repeating the same things, and also saying that if I wanted to talk ever, or do something, we obviously could. We even talked a bit like nothing happened that night. But now, for 10 days it has been completely silent and I don't know how to feel or what to do.
So basically, I have a lot of self esteem and abandonment issues and that side of me is now telling me he didn't actually like me, and that this was just a way of dumping me. But I have no reason to believe that right? He took pictures of me, talked to his mom about me, paid for most of the dates, talked to me every day, posted me on social media, complimented me everytime he saw me and was very respectful and caring towards me. I genuinely believed his words then, but each day that I don't speak to him I'm starting to doubt everything...
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