For reference, I’m [21 M] and she is [21 F]
So I slid into this cute girl’s dms who seemed really interesting, we don’t know each other irl but we’ve followed each other for a long time and I could tell we have similar senses of humour and stuff. For the past couple of weeks we’ve been sending each other memes back and forth, getting to know each other, etc. She lives a few towns over so I’ve been kinda working up to trying to ask her out on a date. It seemed to be going well; the only issue really was that she could take like hours to reply, but I get people can have busy lives and I know she still had work and stuff, so I didn’t mind. Any time she did get back to me she always made effort to respond, asked questions, kept the conversation going, sent me funny shit she’d seen, etc.
Yesterday we were talking and we both realised we liked the exact same movies, and she was freaking out and getting really excited cause she’s never met anyone who she can talk to about them before. She actually apologised for how excited she got over it lmfao, I thought it was cute as hell. At that point she was replying instantly to everything I said, rather than the hours for replies like before, and I felt like I’d kind of got her to come out her shell a little and really got somewhere with her and connected with her. Felt so good.
Then midway through that exact conversation, like right when she was all excited, she just opened my reply and blatantly ignored it. I haven’t heard from her the full day since, and she’s never once opened a message from me and ignored it before this, she always replied eventually whenever she got round to seeing it. I get rationally that anything could have happened; she could have just forgot to reply, could have noticed later but felt too embarrassed to explain she forgot, could have just been straight up busy, literally anything.
But going from those instant replies where we were both excited about talking to each other to complete and utter dead silence just seems really strange. I’m a pretty socially anxious person so I can’t help but have my brain go to stupid places; what if I creeped her out somehow, what if she thinks I’m a loser, what if she was always just replying out of niceness and stopped because she’s not interested and doesn’t want us to get too friendly, etc. Rationally I know that’s likely not true, since we’ve have both been making effort with each other, she’s told me before she thinks I’m really funny, and of course she was so excited about talking about all this; it really just felt like that conversation opened things up majorly.
So, what gives? Why the complete dead silence? It’s just really strange man, and I don’t wanna be annoying and message her again when she’s straight up ignored my last message; at the very least, I want to back off for a couple of days so I don’t seem like a clingy weirdo, but I just really don’t get wtf happened here. My main question is, should I reach out to her again? I don’t want to creep her out, and double messaging after getting ignored has always been a bit of a no-no in my book, but I feel like we were getting along so well and I don’t want to not reach back out and just let that die off.
TL;DR: Girl I’ve been messaging for a couple of weeks left me on read just as we had a conversation where we discovered we have a lot in common. She told me she was so excited about it, and then she ignored my message and we haven’t talked a full day later. Should I reach back out to her, or leave her alone?
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