Did I screw up by communicating? Whats my next move?

So I’ve been talking to an amazing girl for about 3 months now.

We’ve we’re getting really close and have hung out twice. The second time especially went really well.

For most of these three months she has constantly blown my phone up.

I text her first sometimes but for the most part she does first because everytime I do she seems disinterested and dry as fuck. So I just wait for her.

We’ve gone through a cycle of talking a lot and then getting distant and then talking a lot again.

But lately she has pulled back really hard. It’s confusing. She already knew how I felt about her but we had a convo about it yesterday. I told her to just be honest and she said that was probably best.

I felt like I was losing her as both a friend and potential partner and I had to communicate about that. I’m worried I messed up.

She said she is in an “extremely awkward situation” because it is going “really great” with me and another guy she is talking to. She said she had more of a history with the other guy and the talking has been more consistent.

So we know what that means. It’s not looking good for yours truly.

She said that she doesn’t think I’ve opened up to her enough for her to really catch feelings. This is, admittedly, very true. Historically, when you open up to women, they leave. She also said the she doesn’t like how we have those cycles of communication that are hot and cold. And that she would like to see me make it clear that I want her. Which makes sense.

So I said “cool I’ll keep all this in mind”

She said “just give it time”

And she also said that she didn’t want to lead me on and that she wasn’t.

So we made plans to hangout Tuesday and I’ve been putting more effort into talking to her and trying to make it clear that I value her.

But she’s still so goddamn distant. It feels like she’s just being polite because she doesn’t want to flat out reject me.

Between us, I really love this girl

My questions are:

1. Do I still have a shot?
2. How can I maximize whatever chance I have?
3. Did I mess up by trying to communicate about an obvious change in our relationship?

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