So here is the thing couple months this girl moved to our town. We instantly got a very good bond. I met her at small house party and we chatted very long on the first night. After that we started to hang around each other a lot. We also couldnt stop texting to each other. But she was new in the town I also took advantage to give her comfort and make her acceptable in the group. Times go on and im getting more signals from her. On one party i felt her social anxiety i hugged her and she really told me she feels safe for me. At the end of that night we also drunked cuddled in the group. So far so good. but there is a problem she has a boyfriend in the other on long distance in the other country. her boyfriend came to visit and we became kind of a good mates. after couple days he left and she told me they had a conversation that they dont want to be to serious. So they cant have small affairs but they dont tell each other about it and it needs to exlude mutual friends. so that made me realize why the dude was so nice to me. Times go on we are texting everyday all the time. And most of the time she wouldnt stop texting me and also most of the time she would start a conversation. Then second really obvious situation happened where. She is a person with strong morals (at least she is playing that role) and she is super serious about corona. Because i work with people and being around people makes my living i cannot take it as serious. so she was always telling me that she will avoid parties and groups where is more then two people. one night we were at place from our mutual friend. we had couple of drinks and then one friend invited me over to the party where was around 10 people. i purposed to her that we can go to the party and she said no way im going there because of corona risk. after couple hours and couple drinks we started to have really fun conversation and she said lets go to party. on that party we were very close. and she ended up again cuddling with me drunk. Next day she claimed she doesent remember anything even thought she gave up couple hints that she is lying hard. Times go on and i was quite busy with work. so last week she texted me come over to my place we can have a glass of wine. so i was like ok i can go. we ended up drinking two bottles of wine and cuddling and it was on monday. that night i thought ok thats it here we go. but she always kept talking about her boyfriend.
two days after she invited me for cooking session/dinner we ended up again staying long but no cuddles that time.
so today i confroted her about the situation. And i told her i like our friendship and everything but i get confused is she is into me or not. she obviously knows i have a huge crush on her. and i was pissed feeling like she is taking advantage of me. so when in confroted her i said Im all good with being friends but i need to know if you are into me or no. because you get me close and then start talking about her boyfriend and i really dont understand your intesions. and of course i didnt get the clean answer. first of all she was trying to blame it on me and how im imagining all this. and then she was telling me ok lets hangout less sorry im giving you that signals. but the i said its all good i dont have problems with the cudddles and being close friend to you its just i dont get your intensions. after that i told her examples of parties and what confuses me and she really didnt admit to me but just telling me that she is sorry she is giving me that signals and that im recieving this wrong. and she would tell me she was so drunk she doesent remeber stuff even thought she gave away details that make me belive she is lying. also she told me that i always come. cuddle to her and i told her why does she do it if she know i have a crush on her. at that point i told her its ok i just wanted to get this off my chest all is normal lets go on and wrote her goodnight. she told me she is happy i told her and that i have balls to speak about it.
so i really need some advice how to handle this. any advice i get i would appreciate bc im just very confused.
thx guys for taking time
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