I’ve been seeing this guy for the past two months. At first things were great and we were getting to know each other a lot, even though keeping it casual. Lately I feel he started to pull away a bit and I also realized I’m at a different point now and I want to see and invest time on people that are really interested in me.
I like this guy, I would lie if I said the contrary, but not to a point where I caught feelings (I find it hard since I feel our connection is getting progressively lost). That’s why I want to end things, but I would be open for him saying that he actually is interested in me. I know 80% he’s not - otherwise I wouldn’t feel like he’s pulling away I guess. The 20% is just because he’s told me when we met that he’s not ready for another relationship as of now, so could be that after seeing we were connecting quite a lot, he wanted to distance himself.
To end things, but making also clear that I would want to try dating him, I thought of saying:
I know when we started this it was casual, but things have changed for me and I’m at a point now where I’m looking to actually date and I don't think I can keep seeing you because it will eventually get me more invested. If you are not on the same page as me that's okay, but in that case I think it's best for us to stop, so I can focus on someone who wants the same thing
Does it convey the message I want to send? I’m not sure it may be unclear...Thing is that I want to date him, but I don’t necessarily want exclusivity. I still want to keep my options open, just having him as one. My fear in saying this crystal clear though is that he’ll say yes to date just to string me along for sex, without actually meaning it.
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