For starters, I'm fully aware that this may be clear and obvious to those of you who have been dating for a while. I've been casually dating for a while, but I didn't look at any dating advice and I didn't seek out any guidance or suggestions until the past couple of months. I initially just went headfirst into dating and seeing what the hell happened.
After a few rough experiences throughout the past few months (got back with their ex (x2), ghosted me, said I came on too strong, called me abrasive, cussed out and blocked), the biggest thing I've learned is that anything other than a solid yes, is a no. In the words of the last girl I spoke to on Snapchat:
"Use your fucking brain. I shouldn't have to explain this to a grown-ass man. If it's not a yes, it's a fucking no. If I'm busy, it's a no. If I'll let you know, it's a no. If I'm unsure, it's a no. Why is that so hard for you to understand?" -Blocked, unblocked, chats deleted, blocked again
If you're asking someone out, and they're giving you every reason under the sun on why they can't make it, it simply means that they aren't interested. If they aren't offering alternative dates or suggestions on when they'll be free, then they aren't interested in going out. Persistence is NOT key in this context.
Yes, people are busy, but they make time for the things and people they care about. Even if it's only a little bit of time a day, or a bit of time every few days. They make that time because they care. If they can't make it, they'll put forth the effort to reschedule or set something up in the future. They won't give you an excuse, and leave it at that. Don't have your time wasted as I did, because this was a big lesson for me to learn. Life moves on, good luck to everyone!
Edit: After I typed this post, the girl unblocked me again, cussed me out a bit more, and blocked me again. I guess this is a good lesson for me.
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